I posted a kind of jumbled recap of our Easter weekend that I felt like didn't make a whole lot of sense. I took a bit thinking about it and realized why it was the way it was.
I missed Easter Saturday for the first time ever.
For some reason to me that was a big deal. The kids didn't care a bit.
We spent the morning at Yehliu instead and had a great time.
I'd didn't realize until later that evening that the next day was Easter. In the past we have always done our egg hunt the Saturday before Easter. For some reason it really bugged me that I had missed it. I think it's for a couple reasons.
#1 As a family, we have almost zero food traditions with holidays anymore. So many holiday traditions seem to include food. It's just too hard to find gluten free/dairy free whatever when we are in a country that barely carries the item in question. So we've had to let that go. Not a big deal in the big picture of life but there is a reason expats are willing to pay an arm and a leg for a Thanksgiving or Christmas turkey or ham sometimes. Traditions matter to people. However, I can't justify shelling out big bucks for a turkey or ham only to find out we can't eat it anyway.
Thanksgiving for us is still a fun feast but it sure looks different than the Thanksgivings we grew up with. Our new tradition has been for the kids to each choose two foods that they like and we make those. (My favorite thing about Thanksgiving is that we cook like crazy and then get 2-3 days off while everyone eats leftovers.) So we had no stuffing but we did have salsa and homemade ice cream sandwiches.
We've never done tons for Easter and we usually can only get one type of candy here for the kids that they can eat but at least I did it on the right day usually. (We like a relaxed Easter Sunday focused on the religious side of the holiday so we always partied on Saturday and had a calm Sunday.) I felt bad missing that day but the kids didn't care at all. We also had hot pot for Easter this year and the kids loved it. I just need to let go of the idea that they have to have a holiday like their peers in the States.
#2 I feel like I'm not sure we really have any traditions that carry from place to place. Except maybe the
tradition of having cascarones because who doesn't like smashing eggs and we can get eggs and paper anywhere.
#3 My kids are getting bigger. Things they used to care about they don't care about as much and other things seem to matter more to them. Hard to tell which is which sometimes.
Anyway, the whole thing really had me thinking hard. I felt like a terrible mom at first for forgetting. But we painted eggs later and it was still just as fun and we had our hunt another day and enjoyed it a lot. It made me step back and evaluate what I value in the holiday. We all love the creative aspect of decorating eggs and cascarones. The younger kids still like the egg hunt. The older kids still like the egg smashing. So we'll find something that works for everyone. Turns out the day it happens doesn't really matter. Might be one of the benefits of living in a place where not many people celebrate your holiday.
It's funny living overseas sometimes because I feel like I have to really think about what matters about a holiday and what is just a tradition that doesn't matter at the end of the day. Valentine's this year we hosted Chinese New Year/Valentine's Day soccer matches in our backyard. Best Valentine's Day ever. We have all loved our non-traditional Thanksgivings these last two years. And Halloween in Taipei is great. Christmas was a blast too but different from any other we've had.
We can pull out the box of decorations, look at what is available locally and create a great holiday with a mix of what we bring with us and what we find in the place we live. I guess I'm learning (and re-learning) what matters to us is being together and making holidays a special day however we can, wherever we are. Maybe that's all we can take place to place. And it's probably enough really.
However, I am thinking of adding a new, very us tradition: summer Christmas and Thanksgiving dinner on Home Leave or RnR when we are in the US and can get the traditional foods in GF/DF forms. That might be right up our alley. A couple of my kids have never eaten stuffing and I need to fix that ;)